Just once you thought you’d heard the most annoying factor about Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith’s “relational perfection” — yeah, that’s what they name it now — they go and outdo themselves.
The defiantly out-there couple, who’ve been married for 23 years and have two kids collectively — son Jaden, 23, and daughter Willow, 20 — have admitted that Pinkett Smith had an affair with R&B singer August Alsina throughout a “break” from their marriage; that she’s sexually attracted to women; and that they share an unorthodox parenting style (“We don’t do punishment,” Smith as soon as bragged).
Hollywood’s most dubiously enduring duo has been much less forthcoming about their now-shuttered, allegedly secret Scientology school. In 2017, when former Scientologist Leah Remini claimed that Pinkett Smith was a “long time” down-low member, the couple denied any affiliations with the controversial faith. “We’ve never been Scientologists, we’ve never been swingers,” Smith mentioned at the time.
Now, nevertheless, Smith has revealed that he and his wife are certainly in an open marriage.
“We have given each other trust and freedom, with the belief that everybody has to find their own way. And marriage for us can’t be a prison,” Smith, 53, told GQ this week.
He even admitted that his spouse’s “entanglement” with Alsina made it seem to be she was the adulterous one, however “that was not, Smith delicately explained to me, in fact the case,” the GQ author famous.
“Jada never believed in conventional marriage … Jada had family members that had an unconventional relationship. So she grew up in a way that was very different than how I grew up,” Smith mentioned.
And then Smith dropped what may very well be the most annoying movie star relationship time period since “conscious uncoupling” was made notorious by Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin: “There were significant endless discussions about, what is relational perfection? What is the perfect way to interact as a couple? And for the large part of our relationship, monogamy was what we chose, not thinking of monogamy as the only relational perfection.”
He added that he’s in the throes of his “f – – k it 50s” section, teasing his forthcoming 432-page mega-memoir, “Will,” out Nov. 9. (His co-author, Mark Manson, wrote “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck.”)
Smith additionally revealed his self-indulgent, arguably sexist fantasy about having “a harem of girlfriends, including Halle Berry and Misty Copeland, and his work with celebrity intimacy counselor Michaela Boehm, which allowed him to “realize that my thoughts were not sins and even acting on an impure thought didn’t make me a piece of s – – t.”
A Hollywood insider informed The Post that the new open-marriage revelations aren’t shocking: “It’s not like we haven’t heard the stories rumbling around. It’s just that we have never heard them confess or admit to anything.”
They added: “That’s how their relationship has been for so long that you just get used to the way it functions. Also, it is a lot of pressure when people are watching you and you feel like you want to maintain this façade of having this power-couple relationship. So, yes, I think that they want to maintain that façade.”
Representatives for the Smiths didn’t reply to The Post’s request for remark.
Another supply near the household informed The Post that the couple was the happiest they’ve ever seen them at Pinkett Smith’s fiftieth party on Sept. 17.
“It was the best I’ve ever seen her — happiest I’ve ever seen her. All of her closest friends were there. It was old-school,” the supply mentioned of the roller-skating occasion.
“Will was smiling the complete evening and happier than something. Her and Will have been blissful. I by no means noticed them smiling a lot. It was the happiest I’ve seen them in a very long time. It was like, ‘Wow, that’s what 50 is.’ “
The couple’s relationship has lengthy been the topic of hypothesis.
In 2009, Pinkett Smith mentioned: “I’ve heard all the things — their marriage is not real, he’s gay, she’s gay, they swing . . . I’ll tell you what, it’s too hard to be in a pretend marriage.”
Recently, they grew to become more open about sharing their unconventional views on Pinkett Smith’s widespread “Red Table Talk” series, which she hosts alongside her mother, Adrienne Banfield-Norris, and daughter, Willow.
Now in its fourth season, the present is billed as a multigenerational dialog that doesn’t draw back from controversial matters, with Pinkett Smith and her household usually injecting their very own deeply personal emotions on life, love and marriage.
In the blockbuster 2020 episode, “Jada and Will: Their First One-On-One Conversation,” the couple lastly admitted to Pinkett Smith’s affair with Alsina, who joined the household on trip in Hawaii in 2016, after initially denying the rumors.
Pinkett Smith mentioned she didn’t contemplate it a “transgression” as a result of the couple had been on a break. “I just wanted to feel good,” she mentioned. “It had been so long since I felt good.”
The sequence has featured different no-holds-barred household speak.
In an episode titled “Is Polyamory for You?,” which aired earlier this year, Willow mentioned she identified as polyamorous.
“I think the main foundation is the freedom to be able to create a relationship style that works for you and not just stepping into monogamy because that’s what everyone around you says is the right thing to do,” she mentioned.
The Smiths are really extremely devoted mother and father, in accordance with one other supply who was near the couple years in the past when their kids have been smaller. (Willow first generated “polluted” controversy in 2014 when she was 13 — and posed in mattress with a shirtless 20-year-old male pal, actor Moises Arias.)
“They were amazing with their kids. Their kids always came first,” the supply mentioned.
Both Willow and Jaden attended the Smiths’ short-lived faculty, extensively believed to be a middle of Scientology, referred to as the New Village Leadership Academy, which opened in 2008 earlier than quietly shuttering 5 years later.
“It wasn’t a rigorous program,” a former visitor lecturer at the faculty informed the Daily Beast. “In the name of ‘creativity,’ they were just letting the kids do whatever they want.”
Around the time it closed, Jaden, who’s gender fluid and a Louis Vuitton womenswear model, made waves when he tweeted: “School Is The Tool To Brainwash The Youth.”
Despite ample criticism, Jada is happy with her distinctive parenting fashion. “I’m not a conventional, which I take a lot pride in,” she said in 2014. “I don’t just sit with Willow and go, ‘Hey, this is what Mommy thinks.’”
Smith and Pinkett Smith met on the set of “The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air” in 1994, when Jada auditioned to play Smith’s girlfriend however was passed over for the role due to her diminutive stature (she’s 5-feet tall and he’s 6-foot-2).
At the time, Smith was married to businesswoman, actress and designer Sheree Zampino, now 53. The two married in 1992, and that very same year that they had a son, 28-year-old actor Trey Smith, earlier than splitting in 1995.
“I knew [Jada] was the woman I was supposed to be with,” Smith mentioned on “Red Table Talk,” recalling the epiphany he had whereas at dinner with Zampino.
He wed Pinkett Smith on New Year’s Eve 1997, which People referred to as “the most lavish and secretive celebrity wedding of the year.” Jada glowed in a high-necked, champagne-colored, velvet Badgley Mischka robe. (She was three months pregnant with Jaden at the time.)
Still, she was practically a runaway bride, and had zero curiosity in marriage at the time. “I was so upset that I had to have a wedding. I was so pissed. I went crying down the freakin’ aisle getting married,” she mentioned on “Red Table Talk.”
That appeared to offer technique to a lot of marital compromises, together with when Smith persuaded Pinkett Smith to maneuver right into a 256-acre compound.
“Nothing good comes from spending your hard-earned money on a ‘family home’ that your wife doesn’t want,” Smith writes in his upcoming memoir, in accordance with GQ.
“You are putting a down payment on discord and for years you will be paying off a mortgage of misery. Or, worse.”
Another marital low level got here when Pinkett Smith turned 40.
“That’s when I had a midlife crisis,” she mentioned on “Red Table Talk.”
“Yeah, your 40th birthday was my low point,” Smith replied.
He had deliberate a birthday bash in Santa Fe, New Mexico, the place he screened a documentary he had commissioned recounting Pinkett Smith’s household historical past, together with her lineage to slavery.
“She told me that the party was the most ridiculous display of my ego,” Smith mentioned on the present.
The two started preventing so loudly that then 10-year-old Willow got here out crying, along with her palms held over her ears, imploring them to cease, in accordance with GQ.
“Our marriage wasn’t working,” Smith writes in his e-book. “We could no longer pretend. We were both miserable and clearly something had to change.”
In 2013, Pinkett Smith led followers to consider that the couple shared an open marriage.
“I’ve always told Will, ‘You can do whatever you want as long as you can look at yourself in the mirror and be OK,’ ” she said on Huff Post Live.
“Because at the end of the day, Will is his own man. I’m here as his partner, but he is his own man. He has to decide who he wants to be and that’s not for me to do for him. Or vice versa.”
Pinkett Smith later took to Facebook to clarify her comments: “Here is how I will change my statement … Will and I BOTH can do WHATEVER we want, because we TRUST each other to do so,” she wrote. “This does NOT mean we have an open relationship … this means we have a GROWN one.”
On a 2020 episode of “Red Table Talk,” the couple revealed they had quietly separated in 2016 when Pinkett Smith grew to become concerned with Alsina, now 29, who had gone via a sequence of well being points, together with being identified with liver illness in 2017.
But a Hollywood actress near the couple claimed that Pinkett Smith took benefit of the state of affairs, telling The Post in 2020: “Jada [previously] said she was mentoring him . . . what kind of mentoring was she giving him where he felt he gave his all to a relationship that has left him devastated and hurt?,” the supply mentioned.
“You did not help him, you helped destroy him.”
Pinkett Smith chalked it as much as being “broken” at the time and on the lookout for achievement in others — however then mentioned she started “healing” her relationship with Smith.
“We did everything we could to get away from each other, only to realize that’s not possible,” she mentioned in 2018.
Around that point, Smith informed TIDAL’s Rap Radar podcast that the pair “don’t even say we’re married anymore.” Rather, they thought of themselves “life partners.”
“You get into that space where you realize you are literally with somebody for the rest of your life,” he mentioned. “There’s no deal breakers. There’s nothing she could do — ever — nothing that would break our relationship. She has my support till death, and it feels so good to get to that space.”